The Power Of The Spoken Word

Your power lies in your word… which words are you using?

Words… They’re just words right?


They aren’t just words… they are how we manifest our whole lives!

Crazy right? Who would of thought?

Change your language and change your life… No way… It couldn’t be that easy??

Our journey through business and personal development in forums such as The Six Figure Mentors, The Digital Experts Academy and The Landmark Forum have given us the single greatest distinction that produces the greatest results.

What do we mean?


Let us explain…

Language is about more than communicating facts and figures. We manifest our lives through our thoughts, words and actions. Language is therefore a powerful tool in that we can use it in creating the lives we desire.

So what is “empowering language” and how do we use it to consciously manifest?

Gaining Awareness

As is true in most areas of personal growth, before we look at the tools themselves, a first step in transforming your use of language into a tool for empowerment is gaining awareness of how it feels to be conscious of your language.

The next time you are having a conversation with someone, notice the signals that come up in your body and mind in reaction to the language being used by you or by the person or people you are speaking with; both during and after the conversation.


For example, when I’m speaking to someone and they say something that feels less than supportive, I feel a twinge in my solar plexus. (This relates to the energy where we hold our personal power.)

What about you, how do you feel after talking with someone? Do you feel drained? Confused? Excited? Invigorated? Look both, at your reactions and what occurred, to find out what triggered them.

Do this and you will begin to understand how empowering language can feel for you.

As you become more aware, you can choose how to use empowering language tools. While there are universal guidelines, specific words often have unique meanings for individuals on a mind/body/soul level.

Three Components Of Empowering Language

Here are a three main areas to look at when discussing empowering language.

1. Choosing the correct words 

First, we look at specific words that are disempowering and learn to shift into using more empowering words in their place. For example, if you consistently use the word “maybe”, try moving to a word that is more empowering for you. Note that we are all unique, a word that is empowering for me may not be for you, see how you personally experience the word and find what works for you.

2. Meaning what we say and saying what we really mean 

Second, we look at the intentions within our communications and determine if they are coming from a place of empowerment. If they are not, we learn to shift them. For example, if someone asks you to get together and you don't want to, instead of saying sure and then cancelling, you may find a kinder and more authentic way to approach the topic.

3. Knowing when to speak 

Third, we learn the relationship between empowerment and silence when we learn to temper our speech in order to regain our power. For example, so often we believe we have to say something where silence could be the more empowering choice.

Replacing Disempowering With Empowering Language

Learning to use empowering language and eliminating words that subconsciously sabotaged our success, was transformational for us personally.

Language, as our expression of thoughts and feelings, has the power to transform. It's inextricably linked to our view of reality and more is often said “between the lines” than we realize. By changing our language, we can affect our view of reality, which in fact is, our reality.

We’ve observed a significant shift in our mindset when we learned how to replace disempowering language with empowering language. This means that, just by changing our language, we can move from playing the victim to having choices, from feeling powerless to being in control of our life, from fear to love.

Speaking powerfully!

Say these out loud and notice the difference in how you feel as you speak the words

"I really want to…" → "I will…"

"I have to…" → "I choose to…"

Other Examples

Some of these suggestions may seem trite and downright silly. How could the simple use of a word as “like”, “hope”, or “but” really make any difference?

We can shift how we hold things, even if circumstances remain the same. That shift can move us to a place of empowerment. It's part of recognizing that we are always “at choice”.

Spoken Word


Personally, we have replaced most uses of "but" with "and". We picked this because, when we read the empowering language table above, it was the entry most charged for us! Our initial reaction was

"'But' is a perfectly good and useful word. Why should we replace it!?"

The word "but" separates two clauses representing things that are in some way in opposition. The implication is often that one or the other must be chosen, or one or the other is true.

“BUT” and “IF”... (A disguised excuse)

For example, when you hear someone say “I would go to this seminar BUT I can’t afford it...” What the person is actually saying is that they are “not going to this seminar” AND this is their excuse or reason why.

Or, I would be more successful IF I had more money for marketing… Sure, this sounds like a legitimate reason not to be successful, but you can only make money or excuses, not both. This is what sets entrepreneurs apart.

An empowering way to respond would be, “I would love to go to this seminar AND I’m doing everything in my power to find the money.” Or, “I don’t have much of a marketing budget AND I am committed to generating an abundance of leads.” All of a sudden you have an empowering context to solve the problem versus letting your lack of funds hold you back.

The word "and" just conjoins two things in a list, with a sense of inclusivity. Technically, the word "but" expresses more information about the relationship of the things being described.

Using an inclusive conjunction ("and") serves better to hold space for both, expanding the possibilities and revealing the true intent behind your words.

"I" Statements

Another important piece of using empowering language is using "I" statements. These are claims a person makes about themselves using the pronoun "I" rather than "you".

For example, imagine I said, "You know how you sometimes don't want to get up in the morning? Having the aroma of freshly brewed coffee reach your nose can really help!"

I am, in fact, telling you something about myself: "Sometimes I just don't want to get up in the morning. Having the aroma of freshly brewed coffee reach my nose can really help!"

Expressed using "you" and "your", I'm implying that you should agree. However, you may never have trouble getting up in the morning, or you may not even like the aroma of coffee. Rather than assuming these things and telling you what will help you, it's much cleaner if I just claim what is true for me. Then, if you notice that resonates with you, you can offer your agreement.

The value in using "I" statements is ownership. When I use "I" statements I am owning what I say as my view or reality. I am not projecting it onto "you". This facilitates me separating my issues from your issues so that I can deal with mine and don't have to take responsibility for dealing with or responding to yours.

That's a win for me. How about for you?

So where to from here...

We hope you have thoroughly enjoyed the information we had to share for you. We hope you have truly grasped the POWER OF THE SPOKEN WORD as well as we have. For more key insights we strongly recommend you check out our blog post 12 Empowering Statements That Will Change Your Life.

True power and the ability to take control of your life and design your future all starts with changing your language.

This is one of the greatest distinctions you’ll ever learn about life.

If you like to know more about where we learn these important skills then we strongly recommend you check out the educational training platform at The Six Figure Mentors and Digital Experts Academy.

We encourage you to like, comment and share this article with people you care about and know it’s time to take their life and business success to the next level.

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Gerard and Chris

Gerard and Chris are avid bloggers, marketers, and online entrepreneurs. They are committed to helping others achieve success in Life and Business.

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